In earlier posts we outlined the social background of depression as rooted in the mismatch between the way we’re genetically programmed to live and the society we have created for ourselves. We believe that the modern pandemic of depression is largely a result of this mismatch.
In a hunter-gatherer society, abuse such as Sandi suffered could not have taken place. There would have been other protective adults around to observe and prevent it.
In global terms, the cure must be a social one. But while society and the medical profession seem stumped, you can immediately take some steps to get rid of your own depression and lack of optimism. Depression need not be a life sentence.
But getting free does mean changing your life, and, in particular, it means changing the basis of your relationships.
After taking the Uplift Program, along with some one-on-one sessions with Alicia, Sandi emerged from her depression. She came to see that it was not the result of any choices she had ever made or beliefs she had actively adopted. It was not her fault. That alone was a big relief and deprived the negative voices within her of a lot of their power.
She also discovered that her early emotional and physical abuse had set in place the conditions for depression and anxiety, and the beliefs and actions programmed in at that time triggered and retriggered the ensuing mood disorders. She was able to identify how she had re-created negative relationship patterns from childhood in her adult love life, with friends, and at work.
She began to build relationships with people (including a new boyfriend) she could count on to support her and meet her needs by using the relationship techniques we’ll show you later. Instead of pulling her further into depression and anxiety, they became the mechanism for healing and transformation.
In the meantime, she started to mend a relationship she’d lost a long time ago—with her body. Using our Repatterning Movement exercises™ (RPMs) she learned to listen to that aspect of herself and regain a functional mastery of it. Slowly, the trauma of the past, and the accompanying physical pain, let go of her skeleton and muscles. Exercise, particularly in a natural environment, became a very important part of Sandi’s recovery. She began a walking schedule that she maintains to this day.
She used her new relationship techniques, together with other new skills, to enhance her self-esteem and sense of competence, especially in the workplace. Since this had been a major source of her feelings of helplessness and failure, her new career success did much to turn her state of mind around. As the work progressed, she began to feel that she was getting a new strength and serenity. These enabled her to meet challenges and make decisions she couldn’t have earlier. She started to explore spiritual ideas, recapturing a sense of connectedness that she lost many years before.
(extracted from) Creating Optimism: A Proven, 7-Step Program for Overcoming Depression, Based on the popular Uplift program, written by Bob Murray Ph. D., and Alicia Fortinberry, published by Mcgraw-Hill